Live Life To The Full

A little while ago I did something that made me sad.

I went to Wellington for the graduation of my youngest son. It was a big event. He had worked hard for several years as full-time student, full-time father and part time employee.

They had been long and difficult years, and I was thrilled to be celebrating his success with him. So it wasn’t the visit, or the event that was sad. Quite the contrary they were a cause of great celebration and joy. [Read more...]

How to take “Happiness Treats”

Last month we met Penny, who was busy applying 3 keys to happiness to her work situation:

  1. Doing every task to the best of her ability
  2. Putting equal effort into each task
  3. Paying  full attention to just one thing at a time

Let’s continue her story to see how Penny’s approach to the Pursuit of Happiness is playing out in the rest of her life.

Discovering that she was gaining so much enjoyment from applying Happiness Habits at work, Penny decided to explore the subject further.

She started to ask her friends “What are the things that make you happy?” She got some interesting replies and discovered that people she knew fell into 2 distinct groups. This differences between them were so marked that she nicknamed them “The Happy Campers” and the “Moaning Minnies”.

The “Moaning Minnies” were personified by Joe, who simply didn’t know what made him happy. He was able to say what made unhappy at great length however: his work,  his relationship, his boss and his family were all giving him grief of one type or another. And his health wasn’t too great either. At 35 he seemed to have settled down to endure his working week, and lived for weekends, which seemed to be filled with large amounts of alcohol, pizzas and DVDs. None of these things seem to make him genuinely happy however, and she concluded that basically they were ways to avoid facing and doing something about his fundamental boredom and unhappiness.

The “Happy Campers” were represented by Susie. When Susie was asked what made her happy, she immediately listed 10 things, ranging from time tending her garden, through going for a walk with her family, to having coffee with friends.

(In case my male readers are feeling unfairly represented, the “Moaning Minnies” also included Gina and several other women, and there were a significant number of men amongst the “Happy Campers”.)

Susie was excited by Penny’s question and asked what had prompted it. When Penny explained how she was building happiness at work, and was wanting to understand happiness better, she was really enthused and suggested they meet up regularly to swap notes and learn from each other.

She explained that she made her “Happiness List” several years ago, and deliberately had included things ranging in price from free up to a price limit of $10, and things that ranged in time from 2 or 3 minutes up to half a day or longer. She knew that if she had included a good number of things that were easily affordable and took only a few minutes, that her goal of giving herself one or 2 of these “happiness treats” each day was easier to achieve.

Penny went home and created her own list of “happiness treats” to give herself each day. She followed Susie’s advice and included some activities she could do on her own, some with other people, and a range of prices and lengths of time.

She tells me that having started thinking in this way, she is regularly adding to her list, and these little rewards she gives herself, bring some sparkle into even the most routine or difficult day.

Are you feeling inspired? Here are some guidelines to get you started on your own list:

  • Choose a range of activities – some to do on your own, others with favourite people.
  • Include a range of times, from really short e.g. 2 to 3 minutes up to 2-3 hours.
  • Include a range of prices from free to $20.
  • Write it up, and put it somewhere where you will see it easily.

Keep your list updated and give yourself one or 2 treats every day. I guarantee it will lift your spirits and improve your focus and energy for the rest of your day.

You can find a list of my top 10 Happiness Treats on Facebook  – Pop on over and tell us yours!

Until next time

Jasmine

3 Keys to Being Happy at Work

Penny had a new manager and she wasn’t happy. Her old manager had given her lots of positive feedback and clear direction as to how to improve her performance. Penny thrived under these conditions and was struggling with the new manager who gave her no feedback at all. [Read more...]

Why Happiness?

Having launched this series with a couple of “how-to” articles on the subject of Happiness (Make Conscious Decisions, and Take Full Responsibility for Your Well-Being) it’s probably now time to take a step back and look at the bigger picture. What is happiness anyway and why make it your choice?

It doesn’t take more than a cursory glance online to discover that happiness is a big area of exploration right now. [Read more...]

Are You Searching for Happiness?

A few months ago I posted a review of Eldon Taylor’s latest book “Choices and Illusions.” Some of the people on my list bought a copy and listened to the accompanying CD – and gave me this feedback:

I have been so amazed at the subtle changes that are happening as I listen to Eldon’s Inner Talk Recording. We are both happier, more focused and things that once were major difficulties, just don’t seem to be any more. And we are making such good progress on a dream we’ve had for years. It’s wonderful  Joanne – NZ

HappinessIf you are still searching for what will make you truly happy then I recommend Eldon’s work to you wholeheartedly. Read on for a preview of his latest release at a ‘snatch-it-up-now’ price.

Are you  looking for  that illusive something that will finally give you a feeling of being satisfied with your life? Is your belief system full of statements such as, “If I only had . . . . then I would be happy?” The problem is life continually shows us that achieving specific goals invariably does not make us happy; or maybe it only makes us happy for a short while, before we start looking for the next thing we need to be happy. And what a crazy cycle that can be! There are seven fundamentals to happiness and they are available to all. You deserve to be happy! [Read more...]

Values A Key To Success

Setting goals doesn’t work for everyone. In conversation with a good friend recently, he revealed that setting targets has never motivated him.

In a long and successful life full of much variety and some adventure he has never planned his course, responding rather to the opportunities that life presents, and changing direction in response to a finely honed intuition. Traditional goal setting has never appealed to him. What does work is identifying what is of value to him in a particular course of action. [Read more...]

Enjoy This Video

If you enjoy nature, you will enjoy this video – of an extremely intelligent crow solving a very complex puzzle [Read more...]

Regular Rewards a Key to Maintain Motivation

If you’ve ever started a new project full of enthusiasm and energy, only to find that your motivation has dried up and disappeared within a few days/weeks/months, you are not alone. [Read more...]

New Year Life Review

Who am IHow often have you made good resolutions at New Year only to realize they have been abandoned within a month, or less?

This year how about beginning the New Year with a general Life Review instead. [Read more...]

How To Make The Most of Your Holiday

The Flower of the Pohutukawa tree - known as the New Zealand Christmas Tree

The Flower of the Pohutukawa tree – known as the New Zealand Christmas Tree

Well the end of the year is fast approaching, and most people are looking forward to it least a few days off over the New Year period.

However long or short your break is, here is a simple suggestion to help you make the most of your holiday:Take time to be fully present to what is happening NOW. [Read more...]